Dating violence is the use of physical, emotional and/or sexual violence to gain power and maintain control in a casual or serious dating relationship. Dating violence occurs in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships.

Domestic violence and dating violence are very similar. In both cases, the abuser uses physical, emotional and/or sexual violence to control the victim. Domestic violence usually refers to couples who are married or living together. Dating violence refers to couples who are in a casual or serious dating relationship and who may or may not be intimate.

While dating and domestic violence are much the same, there are differences. Unmarried adults can experience dating violence but often the victims are young. Teenagers experiencing dating violence must not only face the pain of abuse but several other obstacles as well. They have even fewer resources available to them than victims of domestic violence. Most domestic violence shelters are unable to accept victims under the age of 18, and young people often fear they won't be believed or taken seriously. They may be searching for independence and want to handle the problem on their own. They may think abuse is a normal part of relationships.

In fact, victims of dating violence need support just like victims of domestic violence. They need to be told that the abuse is not their fault. They need friends and family members who will listen but not judge. They need support and encouragement from individuals who point out their strengths and abilities. They need hope for a future free of violence.

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