Do you know what you're looking for in your relationships? Do you know what a healthy relationship looks like? Well, a healthy relationship is much like a recipe; to make it work, many high quality ingredients are required.

We asked young people and adults what they look for in their relationships, and they gave us the following ingredients:

Self-esteem: people who believe in themselves and their own worth are better able to believe in the worth of their intimate partner.

Mutual Respect: people in healthy relationships respect each other's opinions, feelings, goals and decisions even if they don't always agree with each other.

Trust: people in healthy relationships are not jealous or possessive of each other.

Nonviolence: people in healthy relationships do not hit, threaten, or otherwise scare each other.

Open communication: people in healthy relationships communicate with each other in an open and honest way. They do not use words to hurt each other.

Personal responsibility: people in healthy relationships take responsibility for their own actions and feelings. They do not blame each other if they lose their temper or make a bad decision.

Continue own friendships and interests: people in healthy relationships continue their own interests and friendships outside of their romantic relationship; they don't feel isolated from friends and family.

Shared decision-making: people in healthy relationships use communication and negotiation to make decisions about their activities.

Non-abuse of alcohol and other drugs: people in healthy relationships do not pressure each other to use alcohol and other drugs. They do not "get high" to make the relationship better.

Accepting each other's right to say no and the right to change their mind: people in healthy relationships don't pressure or force the other person to have sex or do things they are not comfortable doing.

Relationships take work! Even good relationships have their share of ups and downs. If any of the qualities listed above are missing from your relationship, talk openly with your partner about your concerns and needs.